Maulana Sheikh NazimIslam came to teach people good character – about anger

Islam came to teach people good character. It fights against bad characters, and the worst character is to be angry! Whoever is angry has all bad character. He who cannot stop his anger cannot keep his Iman, nor his good works. Anger destroys all good things; nothing can stay when anger is present. Therefore, our Prophet (peace be upon him) ordered his nation to keep away from anger when he said, “'The most powerful wrestler is he who can stop his anger!”

Whoever is conquered by his anger, he is a useless person and cannot be a servant of Allah Almighty. This is because when he is angry, he will leave all things for his anger. It means that his ego is ordering him. He is under the command of his ego, and he cannot obey his Lord.

We must always practice leaving anger. Once, we were sitting with our Grandshaykh and his servant, who was an old man. While we were sitting, a fly came up and bit the servant. Quickly he became angry and killed the fly. Our Grandshaykh looked at him and told me, “Tell him, Nazim Effendi, that he must get up and renew his wudu. His wudu is no good – it went away with his anger."

To kill a flea in anger is a criminal action, a sin! Anger is the worst character. All governments are fighting for anger, and all people also. Anger grows: it is like an ocean for all bad characters. If you can dry up that ocean, no more bad characters can live in it – finished. This is a very, very good manner. You must use this, for it is the order of Allah, His Prophet (peace be upon him), and all Awliya.

Our Grandshaykh is a great doctor for the illnesses of the ego. Here is his prescription for us when we are angry: If you are angry, go and make wudu. This is because anger is fire, and fire goes away with water. Therefore, do wudu. Anger is permitted only for our egos. If you must be angry, be angry at your nafs, leading you away from your Lord! I shall tell you a story, also from our Grandshaykh, on that point:

A 'majdhub' is a man who is crazy, but not in the usual sense of the word. He is a man who is 'crazy' for Allah. He is above ordinary people, on a different level from them. (- Conversely, a 'majnun' is a crazy person, in the usual sense of the word; he is on a lower level than ordinary people -) At any rate, there was a majdhub living in a certain town. One day he was walking along when he came upon a group of children playing. Now, children know when a man is on an extraordinary level. They like to run after them and make trouble for them. And so it happened that a boy threw a stone at the majdhub, and hit him on the head. As soon as the stone hit him, the majdhub began to slap himself, saying, “Go to your homeland! Go to your home!” As the startled children watched, the majdhub continued down the street in that way, striking himself and saying, over an over, “Go to your home! Go to your home!"

What is the meaning of that story? Our Grandshaykh says that the majdhub was teaching us about our egos. When he said “Go to your home, go to your home!", what he meant by that was: "O, my ego! If you were all right, then these children wouldn't be throwing stones at you. You must return to your home, to the promise that you made to your Lord. On the Day of Promise, before you came into this world, your Lord asked, 'Am I your Lord?' and you answered, 'Yes, you are my Lord!' When you return to that promise, nothing gives you trouble. When that boy hit you with that stone, O, my ego, it was to call attention to the fact that you must be careful with your promise to your Lord. You must, therefore, go to you homeland, return to your Lord!”

This story means that you have no right to be angry with another person. You must turn your anger to your own egos! You must think, "If I am all right, then all things will be all right with me. If I am not all right, then people will not be all right with me." So, we will be angry and fighting our egos only.

“Anger is of two kinds,” says our Grandshaykh. “The first kind is the anger of ordinary people. Ordinary people are angry on behalf of their egos, not for Allah Almighty. "You may say, 'How? If a man sees a wrong thing, mustn't he get angry?' Yes, I agree with you. But first, I would say to you, why are you not angry with yourself, your nafs? If you are seeing wrong things and getting angry, you should look first to yourself, to your ego! Be angry with it! Punish it for your wrongdoings! For bad speaking, for looking to haram; why are you not punishing yourself? It is easy to punish another, too easy. It is easy to kill others; kill, instead, your ego! When you are angry make a new wudu, and say three times 'Shahada,' and seventy times 'Astaghfirullah.' This is your punishment!

Here, the murids, anxious to punish their egos, asked Shaykh Nazim these questions:

„Is it all right to fast on the light days of the week?"

"No," replied the Shaykh, "no need. It is enough."

„But we've been fasting, already. Every Monday and Thursday since Ramadan," a disciple insisted.

"No need," replied the Shaykh. "You may fast from haram looking. You may fast from anger. You may fast from bad words! Not eating or drinking - that fast I don't want. It is too easy to go without eating. I don't want that. No bad speaking, no bad looking, no anger; that is difficult. So many people fasting, yet they are angry seventy times until maghrib! They say, 'We are fasting!' How can you be fasting if you are angry!"

„I’d say that that describes most of my fasts!"

"Ah?" smiled the Shaykh. "It is clear, plain?” He turned to the other murids, and joked, "Now he is afraid I shall put him three days without eating!”

Maulana continued: "The second kind of anger is for Allah Almighty. This is only for those who have killed their egos."

„I don’t think that we have to worry about that, yet," said one of the ikhwan.

"Yes," replied the Shaykh, "we are too far from that!"

Another brother asked, "What do you do about children who misbehave? Sometimes they can make you get very angry."

Shaykh Nazim said, "You may give them 'tarbiya,' which is to educate them with good manners. Also, 'taqlib'; to make them fear your speaking. It is like acting; a fierce voice, but inside you are not getting angry. You may also spank them, but never in anger. Anger is prohibited!"

Another question: "If you are in Jihad, if you are at war, is it also better to fight without anger?"

The Shaykh answered, "Without anger." This brought him back to his original topic: "Anger is for Allah. It must be in Jihad, in war, but that anger is not for yourself: It is for Allah. Our Grandshaykh told the story of Sayyidina Ali (may Allah be pleased with him), which may educate us on that point:

"Once, during the Holy war in the time of Rasul-ullah (peace be upon him), Sayyidina Ali (may Allah be pleased with him) was fighting with an enemy soldier during a fierce battle. This soldier was a huge man, a powerful wrestler, and it was a difficult fight. Suddenly, Ali (may Allah be pleased with him) managed to disarm his opponent. He flung him to the ground and raised his sword to kill the man. Just at that moment, as the sword was about to strike, the fallen soldier spat into Sayyidina Ali's face! Sayyidina Ali (may Allah be pleased with him) lowered his sword, and looked at his enemy. 'Get up!' he said. 'Get up! I cannot kill you!' The enemy soldier was dumbfounded. 'Why are you not killing me, Ali?' he asked. 'Why are you leaving me like this? Am I not your enemy?' Sayyidina Ali (may Allah be pleased with him) spoke: 'It is because I became filled with my ego's anger that I cannot kill you! Before you spat in my face, I was fighting with you for the sake of Allah. But, when you spat on me, I became angry for the sake of my ego! Therefore, I cannot kill you! You may go.' These words reached the fallen man's heart. 'O, Ali!' he cried, 'You are on the right way! Please take me to your Prophet (peace be upon him)!' Then, the soldier was taken to Rasul-ullah (peace be upon him), and, at the Prophet's hand, he entered Islam."

"Therefore," said Shaykh Nazim, "if your anger is like this, if you are like Sayyidina Ali (may Allah be pleased with him), then you, too, may be angry. If your character is not like that, you must keep it to yourself!"


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