Maulana Sheikh NazimMEN IN ISLAM


Every responsibility for the family is on the shoulders of the husband. As husband and father, all the responsibility here and hereafter is on him, the man - because Allah Almighty makes men stronger than women - physically, spiritually. The responsibility is loaded on him. Women are weak physically, so Allah Almighty does not load the responsibility on them. Western people think that women and men are equal - they are wrong. They are not equal - it is a lie. If men and women are equal, then we would have all women or all men. Why create male and female? If there are two kinds - how can they be equal? If they are equal, either we would have men or women. So man is stronger than woman and Allah Almighty loaded responsibility on men for family and children.

Women need protection. They are unable to protect themselves and their children. Man may protect the family, therefore he is responsible for his family, his wife and children here and on the day of resurrection. He has been ordered to care for everything related to the needs of the family - to bring, prepare and collect. Also to educate the children - first, to give them strong belief, then to teach them skills and to care for them until they grow up and can make their own living. To prepare them for marriage - not to let them run after bad ways. That is the husband and father's responsibility. As in Islam the relationship of men and women must be perfect. As for the family we believe that the creator Allah Almighty is the creator of our children.

Muslims must do every best action in their dealings with family, children, neighbours, the community, the whole universe. A Muslim must do his best for everyone who is in relationship with him or her. First in the family - the man must be best one for his family and women must be best for her husband and family; the man towards his wife and children must be the best one, so that none of the family members will say that another man's actions are better then our father's behaviour to us or my husband's dealings are not the best, but others are better. There must be best actions with family members and never hurting neighbours. There must be respect in the family. One must be more respected in the family - Islam accepts the man to be the most respected, because he has the biggest responsibility to carry for the family.

Woman is weak and in need of protection. So, if a person carries more responsibility, he must be obeyed and respected in the family. From the man's side, Islam asks more mercy for his lady and his children to bear more and to be more patient and to be more merciful for them, not to eat himself without them eating, not getting home before his wife and children are at home, looking after everything they need, not to spend even one penny for himself, for his pleasure alone. If he wants something for himself, first he must ask for his family and children. He must behave as if he is a king at home in him family and he must deal with his wife as a queen for himself. He must say my lady and his wife must not say to him Peter, Umar, John. If is not good manners in Islam to say - both sides must keep respect to each other. You may use a respectful word for your husband, never saying by name. We never heard in previous times, our mothers, Muslim women, calling her husband by name or Muslim fathers calling wife by he name. He must never spent even one penny outside for his pleasure without making sure for his family. If he does not make sure he is a bad one, bad husband, bad father, in Islam. In Islam man must be the best man, women must be the best women.

Islam & The Community

Neighbours must be protected. We have a saying, if you want to know about a person, you must ask his neighbour. If the neighbours say he is good, you must accept him as a good man. Our neighbours are our juries. If they say he is a good one, that it is a good one. If he hurts his neighbour, making them complain, harming them, he is a bad one. Islam prohibits harming neighbours and orders people to look after their neighbours first from everyone, because they are the background for our homes, for our families. When we are absent, they must look after our homes. In this way there must be a very close, strong relationship and solidarity with neighbours.

Islam says neighbours are forty houses - in all directions up to forty houses, this is your neighbourhood. You must look after all these people, you must be in relationship, you must say good-bye, good morning, good evening to them, you must visit them, you must ask how are you, what are you doing, what do you need? And you must take care that in these forty houses in four directions no bad person comes to live there. You must say no to a bad person coming to live in your neighbourhood. That community must be united. If a bad person, bad family comes to the neighbourhood, that means a cancer cell is coming to the community. Therefore, Islam orders every Muslim to look after his neighbour up to forty houses around his home. All of them must be visited for good occasions, for sad occasions, for any occasion, for sickness, for death, for family weddings and other occasions and religious days and nights. They must visit each other and look after their needs and what they are going, who is coming and who is going. A Muslim community with their good dealings is keeping its area free from bad ones, Muslim help security powers - each one must be a holder of security power and give support to them so that any bad thing which happens there, they will know and who did it. They must be with the security powers, the policy. That is the best community organisation in Islam, never giving a chance to a bad one to infiltrate the area, quickly catching him.

Now in Western civilisation they claim that they reached top point of civilisations, but people do not know who is in front on their home, who is that one, and not saying good morning or good evening. What is that civilisation? Islam brought best community organisation and best for community. This is a sign of our relationship with each other at home and in the neighbourhood and also our relationship with governing powers, with the government. Islam says that we must obey laws, we must not be against laws. Therefore, anywhere a Muslim lives he should be obedient. If he doesn't want to be obedient, he may leave that country. It is forbidden - wherever you are you must be obedient, not be against the law. In our days so many people are going against the law. In our days so many people are going against the law. It is not real Islam. A Muslim must be obedient. It is impossible for there to be a Muslim rebellion.

Muslim community must respect each other, must extend help to each other, must try to establish in their neighbourhood charity purposes, WAKF, charitable foundations or trusts for the benefit of the community. Everyone must try. In earlier times we had that good traditional custom - even peasants were giving one olive tree or one carob tree or a piece of land for the benefit of the community fo revere. They were trying to make charity. That is most important for everyone to do. The beauty of Islam is charming, the perfection of Islam is os magnificent, but ignorant people do not understand. The Islamic world is full of charitable foundations, thousands or ten thousands or hundred thousand of foundations or million foundations for charity, living now. That is also our relationship with each other and towards the government. You must be obedient and you must try to do something - leaving charities for every.

Islam says, don't allow bad people among yourselves, isolate them. Bad ones must be isolated from the community. That is a most important thing in Islam. Never give a chance for a bad one to live in the community. The government has the most responsibility to look after those people. But Muslims also must not allow such bad ones to live in their neighbourhood.

Whoever is waiting from their wives, they are like lazy lions, waiting for the lioness to bring, to work, and our ladies are going to be like a lioness in Western countries. Their men are cheating women, saying - O, you are a lioness, you must also work, my work is not enough. Lazy lions - increasing in western countries and stretching to eastern countries also. There are also many lazy lions sitting in coffee shops and their women are working in the fields, in shops, in government departments. That is against the balance created by Allah Almighty in this life.


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